Good or Great?

Do you ever find yourself stuck in a rut?  A rut of complacency or laziness?  A rut of just being or settling for good?  Do we really want to settle for good or do we want GREAT?  Or stupendous?  Or marvelous?  Whatever you want to call it, are you settling for less?

The truth is that every marriage at some point or another will find themselves at a point where they are just "phoning it in."  You've learned the routine of your spouse.  You've learned the majority of their likes and dislikes.  You know what will set them off and avoid those things.  You are able to mindlessly go through marital life without minor disruptions.

But, is that really what we want?  A marriage that we can go navigate well but has no passion or drive or fire or purpose?  Do we really want this?  Today, we're not talking about standing in the midst of a cheating spouse or some other sin; we're talking about not letting the marriage die.

If we really want to pursue greatness in our marriages then we have to put in the work.  That might mean getting dirty at times to deal with issues unbecoming.  It might mean having some very difficult conversations but knowing that after it is over and settled you BOTH will be better because of it.

A month or two ago we had the privilege of sitting under some teaching from a former pastor.  The topic was on sex.  He told us that years ago when they were in their mid-30s that he was unsatisfied with their sex life.  Rather than take the easy way out and just accept the way life was, he pulled his wife aside and had a conversation about it.  They discussed if they were satisfied, what could be done better, and did research to find out what could be done because they knew that the way it was is not how it should be.

Now, we're not talking just about sex but the point we're trying to make is to not take the easy way out and just accept mediocrity.  Our marriages were designed by the Almighty to be the example for every other institution.  It was the first and it is the best and, when done the way it is intended, it will last.

So, evaluate your marriage.  Is it good?  Are you going through the motions?  You don't have to.  You don't have to settle for just good.  Yea, it might get messy for a bit but it will prove to be worth it.  Get in there and do the work.

Josh and Serena