Back to Basics Pt. 2

We forgot to mention something in yesterday's post about going back to the basics of standing for your marriage.  It has to do with the actual how-to of standing.  We have given lots of practical advice of things that you can do to stand but much of our advice is based around what we learned and common sense with a Christian bent.

There is not any one way to stand for your marriage.  The path that the Holy Spirit led us on might look very much different than the one He is leading you on.  With all of the different circumstances, personality types, and variables that make up your unique situation it would be foolish to think that there is some sort of 10-step program that will restore your marriage.  Your unique marital crisis and situation requires an absolute creative God to speak into and breathe upon it.  We cannot tell you what to do to cause restoration to happen, to bring your wayward spouse home, or to rebuild trust.

What we can tell you is this...listen to the voice of the Holy Spirit and then obey.  We know, it's not ground-breaking or earth-shattering but it's the only advice that we can give with confidence that it will work.  What He will tell you to do or say cannot and will not come from human wisdom and understanding.  He might lead you down a very strange and, maybe, scary path but remember that He is leading you.  He has not led you to where you are to leave you there.  If He has lead you to it, He will lead you through it.

Recently, we received an email from a friend asking us what they should do in their situation.  We could not give advice about what they should do; we shared what we did in a similar situation but did not recommend that they follow our path.  We told them to ask the Holy Spirit what they should do.  A few days ago we heard from them again sharing with us what they did.  Their chosen response in the situation was very different from ours but clearly had the Holy Spirit's imprint upon it.

We might sound like a broken record with a lot of what we say.  But, these things are based on who God is, what His Word says, and where His Spirit leads us.  Apart from that, we don't have a whole lot worth listening to.

Listen to the Holy Spirit and then obey.

Josh and Serena