Every so often we need to go back to the basics of what we believe...about standing for marriage...about divorce....about covenant. Sometimes its for us to keep us focused about what we write here, sometimes its to remind you about why you're reading, and sometimes its to let the new readers know about all of this.
Standing for your marriage is not simply saying, " I won't get a divorce." Neither is it idly sitting by and silently watching your spouse go down a path that will only bring destruction to their life. Standing for your marriage is firmly believing that God sides with the covenant and He is currently working out the restoration of your marriage.
Sometimes standing for your marriage is a joint effort; you AND your spouse both committing to being fully restored. However, much of the time it is not a joint effort. It is you....all by yourself. The number of people working toward your marital restoration does not matter, so long as it includes at least one of you. It does not take a husband and wife; it takes a husband OR a wife. Either one will do.
Remember, the tug-of-war analogy from a couple of days ago? It might just be you and God on your side. It may even appear that your spouse has sat this one out or has switched teams. That doesn't matter. It only takes one of you to side with God and stand for your marriage.
Standing for your marriage is a proactive response. Many times the enemy will try to make you feel like you are on the defense. But, the best defense is a great offense! This does not mean that you are vocal or pushy with your beliefs or standards. It simply means that you will not sit around and let the enemy come into your marriage and wreak havoc. It means that in good and bad times that you will press towards God and your spouse. You will NEVER rationalize that where you are is good enough. You will not be satisfied in where your relationship with your spouse was yesterday; you want to grow closer.
Standing for your marriage is all about seeking the face of God for the best in your marriage...not looking or asking for a DIFFERENT marriage. The one God wants you in is the one you are in!! Divorce, although allowed by God for infidelity but given because of the hardness of our hearts, is the enemy's way of short-changing us from God's best. Don't get cheated by the devil!
God's best was given in the form of the covenant and He ALWAYS sides with the covenant! In the forming of covenant, blood is shed and by that act all parties in the forming of the covenant are sealed in it. Only through death are the individuals released from the bonds of the covenant.
Josh and Serena
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