This did not come naturally for us....or should I say, me (Josh). Even though the idea of date night sounds great making it happen can prove to be a bit more difficult. A number of reasons (that could be better described as excuses) have always been a factor. Babysitters, finances, scheduling can all be valid reasons....or really lame excuses. This is the point that I finally learned....we make time and allow for what we want to do. We want to hang out together. So, we make time for it. Most of the time it is usually our time in the evening at home. But, we are adults and need to do adult-type things WITHOUT children.
But, getting to the point where we want to hang out together was a journey. It wasn't until after we were rebuilt that we understood how important it is for us to be "us". It wasn't until after the storm that we were able to appreciate each other and our individual interests enough to make them happen. If Josh made excuses I would pout about how much he didn't care--now we just make it happen. Ladies, we know how to pout, right? We want it to always be about how he swept us off our feet....it can definitely be nice, but we have GOT to be real and decide what's more important. (an awesome date or pouting because it wasn't his idea)
Yes, scheduling can be a pain. We all have lots going on. Yes, babysitters can be hard to find...but, it can be done. Yes, scraping up a few bucks to do something enjoyable may seem tough but if you found a cute pair of jeans (ladies) or wanted a new tool (men) you would somehow "magically" find the money. C'mon, you know we're right!
Do something that your spouse likes to do but can't do it very often. For me (Josh) I love movies. So, Serena texted me yesterday to tell me that she had lined up the sitter and we were going to a movie that I had been wanting to watch. She made plans to do what I wanted to do. We didn't talk about serious, day-to-day stuff. That stuff will be there tomorrow. We laughed, took some pictures, held hands, and were just simply friends together.
So, reader, make a date night happen. Gather some spare dollars, get cleaned up, and do something fun. If you need some ideas, email us and we will help. Try to do something that you two did when you were young and dating. That is what got you to the married state in the first place....maybe it will rekindle some of that young, passionate love that feels it left your marriage long ago. That spark hasn't died; it's just been dormant. Stir it up. You will be glad you did.
Dinner at Carino's--even shared a meal!
Josh and Serena
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