This is the way we are called to be....this is how we are supposed to love. By hoping, persevering, and never giving up! We may have failed yesterday, but it is not too late to work on these things. When we stood at the altar we said we would LOVE forever, "'til death do us part." Do you know what love is? Have the last couple of weeks given it a better picture? For Josh and I it sure has......Love ALWAYS protects, ALWAYS trusts, ALWAYS hopes, ALWAYS perseveres, and it NEVER fails.
We might sound like a broken record, but you cannot FAIL unless you give up. Standing for your marriage will NEVER fail as LOVE never fails. Unconditional love means that you love with a love that understands that you may not receive the same level of commitment. If you are the one who has a spouse gone, distant, or cold....you are NOT receiving the same level of commitment BUT your calling has never changed. We are called to LOVE.
I have failed my husband in the past. I hurt him without realizing it. I honestly felt that I was the best wife I could be but when I compare myself to the days of looking at LOVE it's really hard to say that I loved like Christ loves. I did many loving things for my husband, but did I truly love my spouse the way God intended?
The description of love found in 1 Corinthians 13 is the love of Christ. It is impossible for any of us to love another in this way all the time. This is perfect love, and only Christ is perfect. But this is the kind of love that we should strive to give every day. We will only be able to do this if we allow God to change us.
All standers are believing and praying for the restoration of their marriage. When God brings your prodigal home do you want to make the same mistakes? Do you ever want to go through this again? Do you want to put your children through this again? Of course not! Humble yourself before God. Continually ask God to breath revelation into your life. Ask Him to continue to help you LOVE the way God intends.
We are not trying to diminish the wrongs done to you by your spouse but we cannot focus on them. We have to lay those wrongs at the foot of the cross and let them go once and for all. Has your marriage gotten better trying to change the other person? Have you seen that it doesn't matter WHAT they do they will not be perfect, just as you aren't? We have to learn to love God's way, even if we feel that they will continue to fail us and hurt us and even if our spouse doesn't return the same level of commitment and love. You can continue to pray for your spouse and let God do any changing that needs to be done in them. He is much better at it than we are.
You can't go wrong with Milk and Pancakes...........
Got Milk?
Josh and Serena
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